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The Enneagram is a powerful tool for couples. It can help people bridge the gap over their differences, and find more understanding, respect and joy in being together.

While personality differences can intially attract, we all know how they eventually challenge relationships — and can lead to struggle or even a sense of incompatibility.

Find out how more understanding can shift things in a big way !

"Our relationship has been brought up to a whole new level... so much
more appreciation and happiness." — from past clients (read more)

    What Enneagram Coaching Offers

    The Enneagram is a wonderful system for self-understanding and personal growth. It helps us get out of the box of our own habitual patterns and limited ways of seeing.

    The more we come to recognize and understand the personality patterns that subconsciously affect us — the less power these patterns will have over us.

    In relationship this is critical. When couples get stuck in a struggle over differences, each partner is locked inside the box of their own personality patterns. They misinterpret and react to each other, in ways that hurt the relationship.

 
     
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    The Enneagram can help us see beyond the limits of our own box, and have more compassion for our partner. Furthermore, we develop a clear map of how each of us can and must grow — if we ever want to succeed in relationship.

    We start Enneagram coaching with a basic interview technique developed by Helen Palmer, Ph.D. and David Daniels, M.D. — our teachers and two of the primary developers of the modern Enneagram system.

    The hour long interview will take you through the nine personality types defined by the Enneagram, and enable you to more clearly see your type, and how it affects you in relationships, as well as in your career. We discuss the path of your type's personal growth, and specific strategies to overcome whatever limits your longterm happiness and success in relationship.

    Followup coaching applies this information on a specific basis to issues that arise for you in your life and in your relationships. The goals are to deepen your understanding of yourself and others — and to enhance your personal resourcefulness and ability to successfully achieve your goals.

 
Experienced Coaching Does Help
   
New Vision — John provides an outside, objective set of eyes, experienced in seeing the underlying patterns in relationships. He can help you clearly see what is at the root of your issues — and how to shift things to a positive direction.
   
New Tools and Strategies — In over 20 years of coaching, John found what works — and what doesn't — to succeed. He provides you proven, effective tools and strategies to work through obstacles and have a great relationship that gets better with time.
   
New Results — John's approach is goal-directed. He coaches you to make practical improvements and get tangible results — where you make positive changes that will get you the increased joy and happiness you truly want in your life.
   

    The good news is that you can learn new tools for success. You can learn key strategies for creating and maintaining a great relationship, one that stays strong, even in the face of challenges.

    With the help of an experienced guide — and with the right tools — you can overcome obstacles and create a joyful, rewarding partnership.

    John's lifework is to help people succeed in building great relationships. He would be delighted to help you to build the relationship of your dreams!

 
     
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Sessions are 60 minutes. Extended sessions are available.

Sessions are appropriate:
    for Couples
    for Individuals in Relationship
    for Singles

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    If you would like in person couples coaching, marriage coaching or relationship coaching then please contact us. Couples counseling, marriage counseling and relationship counseling sessions are available in person to couples or individuals who live in Sonoma County or Marin County, including the towns of Santa Rosa, Sonoma, Healdsburg, Petaluma, Sebastopol and Windsor.

 
     
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    Extended length sessions can be set up for individuals or couples living in or visiting the greater Bay Area, San Francisco, the East Bay, Oakland, Berkeley, the South Bay, Palo Alto, and Santa Cruz, Marin or Mendocino County.

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About Your Enneagram Coach

     
   
     

    John Grey, Ph.D. is a relationship coach, workshop leader and author. He received his Doctorate in Psychology in 1975 from Stanford, where he taught and codirected a National Science Foundation sponsored research center. His research papers in psychology have been published in major scientific and professional journals, and are widely quoted in college textbooks. He has extensive training in cognitive and behavioral psychologies aimed at short term treatment and goal-directed coaching that achieves specific results. He has broad training in psychology of personality structure and the Enneagram (over a decade of training with Helen Palmer), and how to overcome relationship issues caused by differences in personal styles. He is also trained in somatic psychology, trauma resolution and Somatic Experiencing (the work of Peter Levine, Ph.D.).

   John has been in private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area since 1980. He has presented workshops in communication and relationship skills at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, the University of California Berkeley, Stanford University, and the Scripps Institute in La Jolla. He worked with John Grinder, Ph.D., teacher of Tony Robbins and the developer of Neurolinguistic Programming, or NLP. He has given professional trainings for therapists and medical personnel in communication techniques and advanced tools for improving relationships and personal growth. He was on Dr. John Gray's (author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) referral list of counselors. His love and relationship self-help books have been used by countless thousands of people world-wide, and can explored on this website.

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Letter from Past Clients

     
                      
     
 

    Dear John,

    I just wanted to send you a card to say hello and to let you know that we are thinking of you.

    It's been a couple of years since we spent time with you as our relationship coach. I want to take a moment to thank you so much for all your support and guidance.

    Josh and I are doing so well in our marriage with all the core foundational work we did with you. We are now able to work so well together. Our relationship has been brought up to a whole new level.

    It truly is amazing to see how much we have both changed and how we have moved beyond our old patterns. Now there is so much more appreciation and happiness. I feel a deep sense of peace, contentment and deep love in my life — in my marriage and family.

    I never in my wildest dreams believed that I could be capable of such feelings — especially from where we started. But here they are, gifts I treasure everyday. Thank you so much for helping us get here.

    With Love,
    Laura and Josh Woodlander

 
     
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