EXAMPLE OF USING THE CARDS

Starting with Your Question

There's a saying - "Be careful what you ask, because you are likely to get it!" The question you ask is extremely important. You can't get a good answer without first formulating a good question.

How to ask a good one? Get very specific about what concerns you. Focus on a specific situation - a concrete event - that represents the issue. Often, we are upset by a particular event. Like this:

Let's say you had a heated disagreement with your partner. There was no resolution. You are upset. You're alone, stewing over what happened. You choose to do something different, and consult this deck of oracle cards. Now you need to formulate a good question.

Start by remembering the disagreement. Imagine you're a fly on the wall. You are far from the people in that scene. As you view the scene - ask yourself, "What is the most useful question I can ask right now?" Wait for a question that feels positive. Consider what may be important for you to know, learn, or recognize at this time.

Example Question: "What can I learn from this that I'm not seeing?"

The cards help you find positive solutions. But, the cards don't answer "yes-no" questions like, "Should I stay in this relationship?" Instead, the cards help you see things with perspective - and make better choices.

Examples of Good Questions

    • "What is this situation trying to teach me?"
    • "What is my part in this challenge we're experiencing?"
    • "What can I do to resolve what upsets me here?"
    • "What factors are involved in this situation?"
    • "What do I need to pay attention to in talking with my partner?"
    • "What could help me to handle this situation better?"
    • "What could help us to share more joy and passion?"
    • "What should we consider before making up our minds?"
    • "How might I best respond to my partners feelings?"

Poor Questions

    • "Why is she always complaining?"
    • "What is his problem?"
    • "What is she really feeling?"
    • "How can I get him to change?"

Stay away from questions that focus on the other person. Formulate your question so that its answer applies to you. Make your question open and broad enough to let in new possibilities.

If you and your partner are using the Advisor together, formulate a question as a couple — so that you mutually agree on what you are exploring. Let your question apply to the two of you together.

So in our example here, you have had a disagreement with your partner. You wisely consider it, and your question is: "What can I learn from this that I am not seeing?"

Next, You Get Your Card Spread

Next, you pick 3 cards and turn them over. Let's say the cards below are what you get, once you turn them over. Let's go ahead and see what each of these cards has to tell you.

Then, You Click on Each Card

To do this, click on each of these cards to see its full-size image and read its text:

Finally, You Consider What the Three Cards Mean Together

Perspective suggests you may need to gain some perspective. See more clearly the part each person plays in the situation. As the eagle in the picture on this card, rise above your feelings for a moment. Look down at you and your partner. Remember to breathe and move. Shake off some feelings. Flying above the situation, see what's really behind each person's actions and words. See what each person really needs as a human being. From this place above, imagine a positive way the two people down on the mountains could communicate and respect each other's needs.

Differences suggests you and your partner may have drifted into a battle over your differences. Without being aware of how you got there. So be aware of your impulses to react automatically. This may be a significant opportunity for your personal growth. Sometimes where we are different, we show each other where we need to grow. The flowers on the card have different colors - but does that make one of them "right?" View the differences between you and your partner in another light. You can grow from working with differences instead of fighting or blaming each other.

Timing invites you to look at how the factor of timing may be involved. Quite often partners forget that people are all different in their timing. For instance, maybe one of you was trying to "solve" things by reasoning with the other. Yet the other was still too emotionally upset to be ready for logical thinking. The attempt to "fix" things prematurely — ill timing — only increases the upset. Ultimately both of you get upset. The dolphins on the card show the advantages of good timing. Some feelings may need to be heard, as feelings and nothing more. Then you can begin to solve things.

Taken together, these cards may be asking you to view your situation in a different light. See where you can move forward in your personal growth. Rather than getting stuck in the same old arguments. This requires you to see how you communicate your feelings. See what each of you really needs. Take turns just listening to each others feelings. Don't interrupt or try to fix anything. When you finish listening to the feelings, you can finally start to figure out the best course of action.

There's More !

If you find these online cards useful, there's more! Now you are using 16 cards. Instead, you could play with a "full deck" — either in printed form, or a much more powerful, enhanced new version of these online cards:

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