About
Your Coach
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John Grey,
Ph.D. is a relationship coach, workshop leader and author. He received
his Doctorate in Psychology in 1975 from Stanford, where he taught
and codirected a National Science Foundation sponsored research
center. His research papers in psychology have been published in
major scientific and professional journals, and are widely quoted in college textbooks. He has extensive training
in cognitive and behavioral psychologies aimed at short term treatment
and goal-directed coaching that achieves specific results. He has broad training in psychology of personality structure and the Enneagram (over a decade of training with Helen Palmer), and how to overcome relationship issues caused by differences in personal styles. John is trained in somatic psychology, trauma resolution and Somatic Experiencing (the work of Peter Levine, Ph.D.). And he is trained in attachment psychology, buidling secure adult attachment, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT (the work of Sue Johnson, Ph.D.).
John has been in private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area since 1980. He has presented workshops in communication and relationship skills at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, the University of California Berkeley, Stanford University, and the Scripps Institute in La Jolla. He was on Dr. John Gray's (author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) referral list of couples counselors. He worked with John Grinder, Ph.D., teacher of Tony Robbins and the developer of Neurolinguistic Programming, or NLP. He has given professional trainings for therapists and medical personnel in communication techniques and advanced tools for improving relationships and personal growth. And he has authored several relationship books and an interactive relationship self-help system, all of which can be explored on this website.
Read more details about John's background...
Letter
from Past Clients
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Dear John, I don’t know
how to begin to thank you for all you did for my partner and
me, and our relationship. We came to you seeking help and
understanding, and what we left with was far beyond our highest
expectations. You possess exceptionally unique skills
for moving people through difficult and sensitive topics and
situations with both competence and empathy, yet with strength
and conviction. Your passion and love for your work emanates
through you.
The amount of work
and preparation you did on all sorts of levels was apparent.
I felt very confident that we were working with a consummate professional in the area of relationships and personal growth,
development, and healing.
I have been doing
a lot of reflecting and soul-searching since spending those
precious three days with you. I believe the greatest gift
I took away from it was a personal and spiritual wakeup call.
I was awakened to see who I am and what I need to do to grow
individually and through my relationship. I was awakened to
who my partner is and his needs. I'm able to appreciate and
listen to him in an entirely different ways. I now have new
tools for dealing with situations as they arise. I truly believe
that we’re becoming soulmates as a result of our time
and experience with you.
Words cannot express
my thanks and gratitude.
Sincerely,
Diane R. Ludgate, Ph.D. / Psychologist
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Feedback
from More Couples
"You saved our relationship.
We really couldn't have done it without you. We were going down into a deep hole. We were stuck and could not have come through it without
your help. As far as we are concerned, you saved the relationship.
So much so, that we've been giving your book as wedding presents.
And if we could afford it, we would give your retreat to all couples
we love. Your work is invaluable."
— O and S, Mediator / Lawyer
"We were truely at a crossroad in our marriage. You gave us the tools we needed to communicate effectively, to have an understanding and appreciation for each others thoughts, personalities and needs. Through using these tools we have been able to heal old wounds and begin laying the foundation for a new, strong and healthy marriage. The knowledge you gave us is beyond words. Not only have we begun to understand our individual underlying fears and desires (and how to communicate them with each other), we are very excited to start applying this information to the way in which we communicate with and nurture our children."
— B and A, Executive / Sales Rep
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"Your retreat greatly improved our marriage.
We were anxious when we got there. But we quickly became comfortable
in your presence. You showed us how to resolve issues which had
been threatening our stability as a couple. You taught us tools we continue to use over the year since our retreat with you.
This has helped us increase happiness, and kept us from falling back into old traps. We are very grateful."
— A and C, Construction Engineer / Educator
"Thank you so much for giving us so many tools to improve our relationship.
When we came to you we were in a stalemate. It seemed that there
was no way to communicate. We got preoccupied by being busy and
we didn't even make time to try anymore. After the weekend with
you, we did not only learn to open up communication again. We found
ourselves sharing a whole new honeymoon all over again!"
— J and V, Medical Administrator / Doctor
"Our retreat was utterly extraordinary, simply magnificent. John is a superbly skilled, wise, authentic, supportive guide. His program is magnificently suited to genuine transformation. The shifts we experienced, the understanding that emerged, and the capacities that we steadily and rapidly built, all went far beyond our wildest expectations of what could happen between two severely wounded, alienated people in two days. What did happen was an undeniable breakthrough. It was facilitated by John's incomparable presence, knowledge, ability to tune in to each of us and support us to bring forward our best. The intensive format worked amazingly well at safely revealing and healing toxic patterns. The tools we were given are priceless, elegant, simple, and they really work. The schedule, the homework, the containment, the safety, and the setting were all so supportive each step along the way. Our hearts are again open to each other; it feels like a miracle, but it's very grounded and real. I feel as if I've found my dearest friend again, still alive and breathing, and still in love with me, thank God. Moreover, I also regained access to my own sense of wholeness. I have opened up in ways I've been yearning for. This retreat has been a total blessing on every level. Thank you."
— D and T, Therapist / Coach
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"We did not know what to expect at
your retreat, whether it would be ineffective like counseling had
been, or overbearing like on TV talk shows. What we found was compassionate,
authentic and supportive, a coach that could mentor us in new tools
and show us ways out of the box we were stuck in. It was like a visit with the wise friend we always wish we had, who could
help us through our rough spots back to the love we originally shared."
— D and M, Executive / Nurse
"We were stuck in a place where we
fought over stupid things. I felt so resentful that intimacy had
long ago stopped. We could be civil, but we felt the happiness we
used to have was lost. Your retreat helped us move through some
big blocks, understand new things, and heal issues we couldn't talk about. I discovered things about him I didn't know even after a decade of marriage! Deep, wonderful things. It's like I
found the great guy I originally met, only more so."
— L and R, Mother / Hall of Fame Athlete
"The retreat opened doors for us to
renew the spark. We had grown complacent. We are now growing more
happy and passionate with each day. The same outside stresses are
still there in our lives, children and work. But the tools you gave
us help us to check in with each other on a daily basis, in ways
that open our hearts to each other and refresh our love for each
other. Thank you so much for this gift!"
— J and R, Architect / Consultant
"The retreat was a great two days, with excellent organization and materials. The weekend is a turning point in our relationship. It will be remembered as the place we got the tools to move into a loving and nurturing relationship. And given where we were when we got there, I'd say this... Even if a partner thinks they might not want to go to a couples retreat, how could you possibly go wrong in going?"
— J and K, Sales / Real Estate
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